Sex Coaching Agreement
John,
I’m looking forward to working together.
This document explains the agreements that form the relationship for our work together. It
ensures that the container is a powerful experience.
Read this thoroughly, and don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions or concerns.
AGREEMENTS vs. EXPECTATIONS
Our relationship operates on agreements, not expectations. If there is an unmet expectation
between us, we will create a clear agreement around it.
Agreements are a crucial piece of working together (as well as in your life in general).
PACKAGE AND FEES
1. FOUR coaching sessions per month for one month
2. Unlimited e-mail & text support - please download WhatsApp if you don’t already have it. We will communicate there.
3. A cost of $1400 for coaching sessions.
COMMITMENT
You understand and agree to the fact that transformation requires commitment. Absent your
commitment, fear will predictably take over and have you pull away from that which is
confronting.
Commitment is the fuel that will keep you moving through the breakdown to the breakthrough
on the other side.
With this understanding, you agree that this agreement has no refunds.
If we have agreed to a monthly payment plan, you understand that that is not to be construed as
paying for coaching by the month. You understand that you are paying for the entire coaching
package listed above. If you quit early, you still agree to complete your payment, in service of
honoring your commitment.
QUITTING
Our fear is a powerful force, and in creating the breakthroughs and transformation you’re here
for, we will inevitably run up against your fear. In fact, most of coaching involves operating in
the face of fear. The way that fear wins, is by having you leave coaching.
There are a vast number of ways that fear can get us out of the crucible that is coaching. Some of
those ways are: trying to perform and do everything perfectly, suffering through the coaching —
resigned to finishing our time together but without generating yourself, quitting early, ghosting
and not showing up to our calls, showing up to our calls distracted or under the influence of
substances, wanting to take a temporary break from coaching, and many others.
You will feel great relief, in the moment, when you choose out of coaching. This is because
coaching is a structure intended to support you in leaning into your fear, and that is, by
definition, scary.
Not only will the above approaches to quitting feel good and relieve the pressure caused by your
fear — they will occur to you as incredibly reasonable and like common sense.
You understand and agree that we will predictably run into some flavor of quitting, and that our
job, together, is to support you in staying inside the commitment and container we have created
for the coaching (as laid out by these agreements).
SESSION TIMES
Your coaching sessions will be conducted by telephone or Zoom at a time agreed upon. Each coaching session will be approximately 60-minutes long.
Our coaching sessions will be initiated by you calling me or joining my Zoom room at our
scheduled time. If you are late, this cuts into our coaching time together.
To avoid that, and to make sure that we make the most of our time together, please be punctual.
CHANGES
If you need to reschedule an appointment, you agree to give me at least 24 hours notice. All
make - up sessions must be completed within the current calendar month.
If either of us goes away on business or vacation, we will spend more time either before we leave
or after we return to ensure that we meet our respective commitments during that calendar
month. If either of us has an emergency, we will simply work around it. If either of us must cancel a
session at the last minute because of a legitimate emergency, we shall do our best to make it up at
a mutually agreeable time.
INTEGRITY
When we give our word that we will do something, following through on that word has us stay in
integrity. Our word is access to our power. Honoring our word is what maintains our integrity.
Most people operate with the belief that the only way to honor our word is to keep it. But if this
were true, the only way to maintain your integrity would be to play a very small game, where
you can manage all of the variables, and only give your word to that which you know with
certainty you can fulfill on.
Here we practice honoring our word. We agree to show up on time, keep our commitments, meet
our deadlines, and do what we say we will do. And, when we are unable to keep our word, we
will practice honoring our word: letting those affected know that we will not be able to keep our
word, and checking in to see if there is anything we need to clean up.
In practicing this way, you will develop the power of your word, and create an empowered
relationship with yourself through your integrity.
SHOWING UP
Your job as a client is to show up, exactly as you are in the moment. This means it’s okay if
you’re feeling like a victim, tired, emotional, or anything else. From that place, you agree to
show up to our calls.
POWER
You generate the power in our relationship. At times, I may raise the flame for you, and provide
you with particularly powerful coaching. At other times, I may lower it.
You understand and agree to the fact that you are always the one in control. You get to say
whether or not you want more or less power in our coaching.
If you are not experiencing our time together as powerful, you agree to bring this to our call so
that we can address it.
My job is to serve you, not please you.
That may mean reflecting things to you that you don’t want to hear, or pointing to something you are afraid of or unwilling to look at.Your job is to use me, not please me. It is not your job to benice to me, to mince words with me, or do anything else with the intention of pleasing. Use me in service of your breakthroughs.
AUTHENTICITY
We agree to be authentic about our inauthenticities. We agree to “tell on ourselves” when we are
being inauthentic. We agree to communicate our beliefs about how the coaching is going, what
we are experiencing in the moment, and anything else.
If I ever say or do anything that upsets you or otherwise does not feel right to you, you agree to
bring it up with me.
CONFIDENTIALITY
Anything that you tell me or otherwise reveal to me in my capacity as your coach will be kept
strictly confidential.
NATURE OF OUR RELATIONSHIP
It is never your job to be responsible to me in our coaching. Our relationship is a partnership, not
a hierarchy. I work for you, not the other way around.
Our coaching relationship is in no way to be construed as psychological counseling or any type
of psychotherapy. Our relationship is also in no way to be construed as an advisory relationship.
As your coach, the most I will ever do is make a suggestion to you. Nothing I ever say or do
within the bounds of our coaching relationship is to be misconstrued as advice, or as otherwise
telling you what to do.